Never Smile At A Crocodile

Thinking that somehow you can make peace with some people through appeasement often creates more problems. Former British Prime Minister Neville Chamberlain thought he could make things hunky-dory with Hitler by letting him have a chunk of Czechoslovakia, a heavily industrial, strategic area which the Nazis used to invade other countries.

Chamberlain’s appeasement to Hitler must have been what his successor, Winston Churchill, was thinking about when he coined the phrase “an appeaser is one who feeds a crocodile, hoping it will eat him last.”

Never smile at a crocodile
No, you can’t get friendly with a crocodile
Don’t be taken in by his welcome grin
He’s imagining how well you’d fit within his skin…”

Read more: Peterpan – Never Smile At A Crocodile Lyrics | MetroLyrics

Appeasement is causing problems in Bucks County, PA.  Some folks who go to the community meals for the homeless and those in need think people abusing the privilege should be given a free pass and nothing should be done about threats, harassment, and even physical violence. Calling the police is not in some people’s DNA.  By not doing something about criminal activity and even helping a crocodile escape some people think it will satisfy him. This is a crock!

Their alleged advocates, the Advocates for The Homeless and Those in Need (AHTN) likewise think wrongdoing should be ignored and that by devising ad hoc schemes to cover it up will appease some in the homeless community and make the so-called advocates come out squeaky clean, thinking it will insure funding and let them feel good.

A guest who goes to the meals, who was the subject of malicious gossip, most of which originated from a former homeless woman whose quest was to be queen of the homeless, was made a scapegoat at a meal where he was threatened by a crocodile. At the meal at Redeemer Lutheran church, Penndel, three crocodile hunters wrestled the croc off of the other guest and relocated him to the opposite end of the room, where AHTN and the hosts talked. Here things were said about the victim. I couldn’t hear what was said, but the crock had said elsewhere that the guy he threatened was saying things about others in the homeless community. Another homeless guy at the meal echoed this gossip.

Evidently, an AHTN member in the crock corner must have said something to convince the host not to let the victim of the unprovoked attack back to the meal the next time it was held and got AHTN to ban the victim from the AHTN bus. The crock, however, was allowed back to the meal and was allowed to keep riding the bus. By the way, AHTN rules forbid its clients to ride the bus while intoxicated.

The police came and said the host wanted the victim to leave immediately. Nobody listened to his side of the story that night nor were any witnesses interviewed!

Because of this gross miscarriage of justice, the victim filed a lawsuit against the members of AHTN who were in the crock corner and Redeemer Lutheran.

About a year and a half later, when the victim greeted a relative of AHTN’s president at a community meal, the relative confronted him about filing a lawsuit against AHTN, complaining to one of the hosts about it. The plaintiff said that he didn’t file against AHTN but against members of AHTN. He also pointed out that the drunk and disorderly guy is in jail.

If AHTN kept appeasing the crocodile, he would have continued his behavior. One formerly homeless woman said that if this kept up, he might even kill somebody! He was arrested, after being on the lamb for weeks after someone spotted him and called the police. This wasn’t appreciated by everybody.

Because people stepped up to the plate, the problem was finally resolved. This sent a message through the neighborhood that there are consequences for bad behavior. This is a good start.

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.

-Edmund Burke

There Is Hope

In my last blog, I addressed how a message I found in Charles Keating’s Dealing With Difficult People translates to behavior I found in Bucks County, PA.  In the book, Keating quotes an “expert” who says that “…accurate, objective but unfavorable perceptions may be less desirable for many good relationships than inaccurate but favorable perceptions. Most people want to be accepted for what they would like to be, not for what they really are.”

The philosophy of thinking of yourself as being better than you really are is harmful to society and to the way we relate with others. Inflating yourself seems to mean a lot in today’s society. The problem with that is that you don’t see yourself realistically. It also hurts you.

The philosophy of not seeing yourself for who you are for fear of damaging your self esteem is one of the reasons I didn’t pursue a potential job counseling at a methadone center where I worked decades ago. The counselor at the clinic who tried to recruit me as a counselor presented material that said the patient should not be told that his problem was a result of him being bad. This was said to be detrimental to recovery. It knocked pastors telling people that they have a sinful nature.

At my 40th high school reunion, I learned about many classmates who died from drug overdoses, many who had gone to that methadone center for treatment. Evidently, the center’s ideas don’t work.

There is hope. If you are sick, the doctor has to find the problem. Once the malady is found, you can find the cure and get better. This works the same with our minds, which affects behavior. Substance abuse and other behavioral problems are not a disease, except in the metaphorical sense, but, like a physical disease, if you have the right remedy, you can be restored. Not quick as a wink will you be in the pink, but changing thinking and your ways, recovery, happens gradually over time.

In an interview with Tabletalk, Christian counselor and pastor Jay E Adams discusses how the concept of self esteem affects us:

TT: How has the emphasis on “self-esteem” impacted the church, and how should Christians respond?

JA: The emphasis is not biblical; consequently, wherever it is touted it has affected the church adversely.

The emphasis upon sin in a Christian’s life and the need to deal with it as God’s Word requires, in many places, has been replaced by teaching that we are better than we think—when just the opposite is in most cases true.

I have dealt with the topic at length and demonstrated how far-removed it is from a biblical view in a book titled The Biblical View of Self-Esteem, Self-Love, and Self-Image.

In order to provide a base for such teaching, the Bible—and even the gospel—have been distorted. For instance, Jesus speaks of two commandments: to love God and neighbor; thus, the emphasis on self-esteem directly contradicts Him.

Moreover, God’s grace in saving miserable sinners has been replaced by heretical teaching, such as saying that it is because we are so valuable that Christ came to redeem us. Not all who hold self-esteem views go so far, but many do.

We need to have a biblically based view of our true position in Christ in order to have a biblical perspective on ourselves.”

http://www.ligonier.org/learn/articles/competent-counsel-interview-jay-adams/

The problem when we focus on ourselves is that the needs of others become subordinate to us. This is why so many marriages and other relationships break down. Humans are not perfect, and when others fail us, we need to fall back on our commitment to others, which may include self sacrifice.  Theologian Cornelius Van Til was known for holding  tenaciously to the faith, not yielding to doctrine that lacked fidelity to scripture.  After years of fighting for the faith, often going against the grain, he got married. When he was asked what he needs to do to have a good marriage, Dr. Van Til said he needed to learn how to yield. http://www.theopedia.com/cornelius-van-til

The first step in the Twelve Steps program, which has historically been successful, is to humble yourself and admit you have a problem. http://www.celebraterecovery.com/index.php/about-us/twelve-steps

Once you acknowledge the problem, you deal with it then move forward.

Substance abuse is not the only thing that causes problems. People harbor resentment, which is a problem I’m working on, they have anxiety and depression, which I’ve also been working on. Gluttony, lust and other problems are things that get us out of whack, not the way God created us.

We humans have fallen –we all have baggage. Some carry different kinds of baggage and some carry more than others.  In any case, God can restore us to the way He made us.

One thing I, for one, need to remember, is the following words of wisdom:

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others”.  -Colossians 3:13

See No Evil, Hear No Evil, Blog No Evil

A message in a book I’m reading helped me pinpoint why there are difficulties in life, particularly when dealing with troublesome people in Bucks County, PA.  Dealing With Difficult People, by Charles J Keating, which someone gave me as a joke when I kept company with a homeless woman who left the neighborhood some time ago, planted a light bulb atop my head.

In the Chapter Difficult People in Groups, referencing an “expert” the author writes “He suggests that accurate perception of others within a group is not desirable if we are seeking the best means to healthy and productive interpersonal relationships within the group.” Quoting the source: “…accurate, objective but unfavorable perceptions may be less desirable for many good relationships than inaccurate but favorable perceptions. Most people want to be accepted for what they would like to be, not for what they really are.”  Keating expounds: “In this context he asks whether a child, viewed by his or her parents accurately as stubborn and disobedient, will relate better within the family than the child who is received inaccurately (my emphasis) as charming, well-behaved and intelligent.”

Really? No, the “expert” is not being realistic. So we should all pretend people are OK when they are not? Using the example of a child, the brats that soccer moms bring to the public library in Levittown evidently were just given a pass by their parents, never disciplined when they misbehaved. The bad behavior was ignored and instead the brats were viewed as what the parents would like them to be. They were never told, for example, as was my daughter in preschool, that when inside they need to use “an indoor voice.”

The preschool reinforced my child rearing just as does the Levittown librarian for the soccer moms by giving the noisy brats a pass when they disrupt others at the library.

Some time ago, I confronted the librarian about the double standard at the library, where if a homeless person speaks not much more than a whisper, they are hassled but nothing is done about the brats, who are much louder than are kids who play at Chucky Cheese. The librarian said that she does do something about the noisy kids. So, her inaccurate perception is preferable to the truth in this instance because the library is what she would like it to be, not as it really is. It’s no surprise that Pat is a big fan of Hillary Clinton.

Speaking of the former Wicked Witch of The West Wing, the election clearly was a battle in the culture war. It’s a war about institutions such as the rule of rule of law, free speech, and equal protection of the law.

The 411 on the culture war: https://wigtunes.wordpress.com/tag/francis-schaeffer/

The mores of some people in the homeless and needy community in Bucks County include “do not snitch” when someone does something wrong, even if it is a criminal act, and don’t call certain people out when they, for instance, hog all the desserts and do other things at a community meal for the homeless and those in need that affects others. Just as the librarian reinforces bad behavior of undisciplined kids, the Advocates for the Homeless and Those in Need (AHTN) enables bad, even criminal behavior.

By the way, for those of you in Doylestown, Definition of Mores:

” plural noun, Sociology.

folkways of central importance accepted without question and embodying the fundamental moral views of a group.” -Dictionary.com

One of the mores is that it’s OK to intimidate, even threaten with violence someone who sees something that affects others and expresses an opinion about it. This was the case when I was threatened, but unsuccessfully intimidated, although annoyed and perplexed, at one of the community dinners by members of the suburban gangstas.

HUD director Ben Carson remarked that a problem today is that people are afraid to express their views for fear of retaliation. I agree with Dr. Carson. The trick, however, is to consider, as Kenny Rogers sang,    “You‘ve got to know when to hold ’em
Know when to fold ’em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run”

Another example is when a guest at a homeless meal loudly complained about a guy in line who called the police on a fugitive wanted for attacking another guest at a homeless meal. “It’s terrible, it’s terrible!”, he repeatedly exclaimed. The fugitive, now in jail, habitually came to the meals drunk and verbally harassed and physically threatened other guests, and – the waterloo-  knocked down and injured another guest. All along, AHTN pussyfooted in the matter, even getting him off Scott free in one instance. I believe that AHTN is sucking up to those responsible for helping the fugitive escape.

Problems happen when this man drinks. He needs help. AHTN touts that they help the homeless. Will they help the fugitive get help? That remains to be seen!

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

-Proverbs 22:6

Whats A Matta U. Environmentalists

“If Republicans in Congress fall in line with Trump, it’d mean eliminating the safeguards that ensure environmental justice for impoverished areas and communities of color. These measures would most heavily impact the most vulnerable and marginalized Americans. We have to make it clear we will not stand for this cruelty.” -Email I received from the League of Conservation Voters

What melodrama!

The pseudo environmentalists from the LVC are beseeching me to help them to stop the budget cuts to the EPA that will defund the Green Gestapo. The defunding cuts wasteful and harmful policies of the EPA.  Like the fake news networks, the LVC promotes phony environmental causes, like climate change. For those of you in Doylestown, “Pseudo definition, not actually but having the appearance of; pretended; false or spurious; sham. See more.” -Dictionary.com

In reality, the EPA is just a bloated bureaucracy that soaks taxpayers and wastes money to kowtow to special interests while hurting the economy. It is among the organizations whose rules and regulations destroy freedoms and stifle private business efforts to create jobs.  https://www.cato.org/publications/commentary/defund-organizations-destroy-freedom

The environmentalist whackos espouse the false choice between having a healthy environment and a good economy

What’s true is that idiotic environmental regulations and high taxes hurt everyday people, causing more homelessness.  What’s cruel is normal, hard working people having to build residences out of crates, cardboard, scraps of mental and whatever else they can find because of high government taxation and onerous regulation.  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hooverville

Another cruelty is men having to risk life and limb to hop trains to find work and food, only to be victimized by railroad bulls and other nasty people during the progressive period of the 20s and 30s. http://livinghistoryfarm.org/farminginthe30s/water_07.html

Drug abuse is an epidemic. There’s another kind of dope epidemic.  People who buy into the idea, which is this year’s earth day theme “Government must ‘do more’ about climate change because ‘consequences of inaction are too high to risk.’ “

John Stossel expounds on this epidemic: https://townhall.com/columnists/johnstossel/2017/04/19/earth-day-dopes-n2314868?utm_source=thdaily&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=nl&newsletterad=

On earth day, some people support the environmentalist cause through symbolism (over substance) by cutting back on energy by doing things such as turning off lights. On this occasion, like Motel 6, I’ll leave the lights on for you!

If you are out of work and hungry, eat an environmentalist!

I Can’t Fly South!

The so-called fat cats, rich people, have been getting skinny. Rich trendies in places like Manhattan, New York are obsessed with thinness. Author Tom Wolfe coined the term “Social X-Ray” to describe, in Bonfire of The Vanities, the skeletal ladies-who-lunch on the Upper East Side.  http://www.smh.com.au/news/people/death-of-the-social-xray/2005/07/06/1120329491888.html

While “fat cats” are getting skinny, poor people, including those on welfare and the homeless, are becoming the new fat cats.

The community meals for the homeless and needy in Bucks County, PA have gone above and beyond its mission to feed hungry people. Some people who go to the meals have become quite rotund, which is a polite word for “fat.” Some of them are proud of their big bellies.

One homeless guy who has been movin‘ on up, told me that he doesn’t want to be made too comfortable in his situation because it wouldn’t give him an incentive to improve his lot. By indulging the homeless in meals that have, to some, become a Roman banquet,  the meals provide more than subsistence. Gorging yourself does not give you much motivation to leave the nest.

Parks in Bucks County have posted rules not to feed the waterfowl, a tradition almost as dumb as smoking. Migrating waterfowl, instead of continuing on their journey south, may stop in route where they can get welfare. Here they grow so fat that they can’t fly south! They have trouble even getting off the ground!

http://wildlifecenter.org/sites/default/files/Consequences-of-feeding-wild-ducks-in-public-parks.pdf

Like the waterfowl, needy people need to stick to basics, and continue their journey, and not get stuck in a rut, like the characters in John Bunyan’s The Pilgrim’s Progress. In the story, the characters, who were just supposed to take a nap on their way to the Celestial City, lingered, and had to suffer the consequences. God, of course, guided them along The King’s Highway, home.

http://www.sparknotes.com/lit/pilgrims/summary.html

We are all homeless, in a sense. For the Christian, heaven is home. We are just sojourners on this earth and we shouldn’t get too caught up in the things of this world. Easter is a reminder that Jesus rose from the grave to overcome death to save us from our sins and to follow his ways in life to advance His kingdom. God restores us to the way he created us.

Easter is not about the bunny; it’s about the lamb!

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” -John 16:33

We Gotta Get Out of This Place!

Gracious people have worked hard to help the homeless in Bucks County, PA, but a few miscreants are risking losing the free meals they provide. Lately I heard that before one of the meals homeless guys urinated in the parking lot, where people could possibly see them.

There’s enough prejudice against the homeless; this kind of crass behavior only adds to stereotypes! All the people who, out of the goodness of their own hearts, put in the time in effort to feed to homeless needs is for someone in the neighborhood or passing by to see, and possibly report this crude behavior. It isn’t good public relations for the homeless. Some of us are trying to convince the public that the homeless are basically decent people – that they just don’t have a home – but when certain individuals create problems it makes the PR campaign to educate the public more difficult.

Evidently, some homeless people think that because they “live in the street” it’s natural to adapt a street behavior. As I’ve written before, just because you are homeless you don’t have to lose your dignity. You can act civilized. Let people judge you on the content of your character and not your living situation! Homelessness is no excuse for bad behavior!

Some homeless people have not let their station in life define their behavior. The Bucks County liberal establishment is heir to the philosophy that believes in a caste system, so it’s no surprise that its view of the homeless is that once you are homeless, you will always be homeless. On the contrary, the consensus in our country, before it was contorted by the French enlightenment and eastern religion, is that everybody has an opportunity to be whatever he strives to be. Examples of this are Abraham Lincoln, who grew up in a shack but improved himself and became President, Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas and now HUD head and top neurosurgeon Dr. Ben Carson.

Speaking of Dr. Carson, one of his quotes applies to the homeless situation. “Success is determined not by whether or not you face obstacles, but by your reaction to them. And if you look at these obstacles as a containing fence, they become your excuse for failure. If you look at them as a hurdle, each one strengthens you for the next.”

I’m a great believer that people can be restored. One guy who was homeless and struggling for work got temporary jobs through an agency. He told me that one place he worked as needed asked to have him back when they needed someone. Obstacles did not stop him, and he kept plugging away, having faith that God would provide. God did. He also has substance abuse problem, but went through a Twelve Steps program and was able to lick the problem. Now he has a good steady job he went to school for, and is doing well in it.

He told me that he doesn’t want to be made too comfortable in his homeless situation. Otherwise, he wouldn’t have the incentive to get out of this place, if it’s the last thing he ever does.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LUpBSvN1a50

There are other homeless success stories in Bucks County. In one such story, a formerly homeless guy became self sufficient and got his act together because, as he told me, he took responsibility for his actions and didn’t blame others. “They don’t like that.” I’m not sure to whom he was referring – we talked briefly as he walked by my table at a community meal, but I believe it could apply to world view of the establishment in Bucks County – Penndel Mental Health, The (alleged) Advocates for the Homeless and Those in Need (AHTN), the county commissioners, the soccer moms whose bratty kids terrorize the Levittown Public Library…

It’s good that some of the churches are doing more than feeding the homeless. Many of them genuinely make them feel welcome, accept them and minister to them. After all, man does not live by bread alone. Likewise, some homeless and needy people counsel one another, encouraging, building one another up.

With Allen and Keith’s wasteful, problematic mental health hustler programs about to be defunded, the churches and the brothers and sisters need to fill in the gap – to fill the empty shell with genuine concern and help, something not, as was the case with Alice in Wonderland, found in a pill.

The community meals for the homeless and those in need in Bucks County is a wonderful thing. Let’s not ruin it!

 

Fiery Temper

It’s no wonder that homeless people, like pit bulls, get a bad rap.  Police Charge Homeless Woman With Vehicle Arson” reads the headline on Levittownnow.com.  http://levittownnow.com/2017/04/12/police-charge-homeless-woman-vehicle-arson-car-dealership-route-13/

Of course the story involves homeless people, but by using “homeless” as the lead unfairly targets the homeless.

The vehicle arson was driven, evidently, by anger. Homeless people are not the only ones who have anger issues.  Recently,  I found some people who go to the community meals for the homeless and those in need, who have homes, who have a problem with anger and, like the woman charged with vehicle arson, have acted on it, although not in the same way. I’ve referred to them as “suburban gangstas.”

Your situation, your status in life should not define who you are –  your content of character.

What causes anger?

People get angry when they feel threatened, violated, taken advantage of, degraded, and for other reasons.  Sometimes people just don’t want to admit when they are wrong. They must think that denial is a river in Egypt. Drug addiction is such an epidemic because people won’t admit they have a problem and that it’s a matter of self control and the will to not want to get high. Humility is needed.

Handling anger

Anger is not inherently bad. There is a righteous anger, where one can be angered by someone wronging you or others. But the way anger is handled is what matters. The key is to address the problem and to find ways of resolving it, rather than exploding like Mount Saint Helens or holding it in, becoming resentful. Either way does not resolve problems. In the case of the vehicle arson, an explosive anger, which evidently had been going on for some time, not only didn’t fix the problem, it created more and greater problems.

It’s best when anger is handled in a constructive way to zap the problem and build good relationships with others. A helpful hit is the golden rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Self control is key to building and keeping healthy relationships. It also helps maintain inner peace.

Having good, loving relationships with others is something to remember and to motivate behavior. Think of consequences before you act. You may be sorry.

Anger often comes when one is fed up with a situation. Living in a car isn’t the preferred situation, but sometimes it is just the way it has to be, and rather than fighting the situation and bemoaning one’s lot, it works better to accept it. Besides, this is often for just a season. If you do the best you can do in a situation, there’s a good chance you can get out of it.

I’m a caregiver, taking care of someone who can be difficult at times, who tends to demand excess amounts of coffee and wine – more than the doctor recommends. It’s a fight to use moderation and to keep spirits up, but when I reflect, I realize it’s for the best and the right thing to do. There has been gradual progress, and I feel silly after fretting and letting off steam after I simmer down. I’m reminded to put things into perspective and look at the big picture.

Here are some tips about handling anger the right way:
http://www.bethanycommunitychurch.org/userfiles/file/BtBtL/BtBtL%20Resources/What-Do-You-Do-When-Anger-Gets-The-Upper-Hand-Pamphlet1.pdf

Tell Me Why

Falsely accusing someone for gain is nothing new. With Easter approaching, we are reminded how the perfect lamb, Jesus, sacrificed Himself to save us from our sin and bring new life for those who believe.

Jesus was a threat to Caiaphas and his gang, whom the Romans tolerated. At a meeting of the Sanhedrin, the chief priests and the Pharisees decided it was in their best interests to lie about Jesus and turn Him over to the Romans to be crucified. They wanted to conduct business as usual – the money changers and other shady activities.

Likewise, today in Bucks County, PA, the Advocates for The Homeless and Those In Need (AHTN) have a racket they are protecting.  About a year and a half ago, secretly, I believe a member of AHTN lied about an innocent guest at a community meal in order, in her thinking, not to have a mob get mad at them by holding accountable a homeless guy who came to the meal drunk and verbally harass, curse at and physically threaten another guest.

The drunk and disorderly homeless man started harassing the victim after overhearing the guy talking about  court cases he sat in on.  He had a problem with this and went ballistic, cursing at and even swinging at him, just clipping him.  Three of the hosts had to drag the drunken man away. He was ushered to the far corner of the dining hall, with AHTN members accompanying him.

The victim showed great self control, not even verbally arguing with this maniac.  Yet,  when the police approached the victim, the officer told him he had to leave because the host wanted this. The victim was banned from the bus, and, what’s more, the next time he came to the meal, he was told he was banned, because, when pressed for an answer, the host reluctantly said it was because he was saying bad things about the homeless.

The assailant was not only allowed to ride the bus but came back to that particular meal.

It is strange, even Kafkaesque, that the victim, who never had  any issues with this host, suddenly was not allowed to come to the community meal. I wish I were a fly on the wall when AHTN representatives sequestered the assailant. I think what must have been said is why he was not brought to the civil hearing.

For AHTN, it was a matter of expediency masquerading as keeping the peace.

Recently, a year and a half  later, someone related to a leader at AHTN confronted the victim for filing the lawsuit against AHTN, pointing this out to one of the hosts at a meal, wondering why the victim did such a thing. The victim explained that he didn’t file the suit against AHTN, but against individuals from AHTN.

AHTN Mouthpiece: Tell me why eye eye eye you filed.

Plaintiff: And why you lie eye eyed about me.

https://www.bing.com/search?q=beatles+tell+me+why+youtube&form=EDGNTC&qs=AS&cvid=38901c4d12ab4888b815e8af53c1c2d5&pq=beatles+tell+me+why&cc=US&setlang=en-US&elv=AXXfrEiqqD9r3GuelwApulqvV0NaGzNntS66bcjnGB8Qo8NCZ*0wnNO4NdS6s3%21sEyfRTh7HS*TeG1iAMOmifK0r0M1c*ptwefTo6FjgZqvg 

AHTN is not the friend of the homeless. At the Kangaroo district court hearing, AHTN was let off the hook – for the time being (dismissed without prejudice, which means, for those of you in Doylestown, it can be appealed and it is), while the homeless person was given a default judgment. He was not even brought in from the Bucks County jail. As the old Beatles’ song goes “But you left me sitting on my own,
Did you have to treat me oh so bad,
All I do is hang my head and moan.”

By not enforcing rules, and acting like when an individual homeless person does something wrong you are confronting the whole group, it hurts the homeless community. The message that the homeless are supposed to act badly casts a negative image on them. This plays into the mentality of the Bucks County establishment, where, for example, at the Levittown public library and the nearby Veterans’ Memorial the homeless are not welcome.

In this case, AHTN had mollycoddled the assailant who had been harassing the real victim and others for some time. One formerly homeless woman pointed out that if this behavior kept up, the assailant, in a drunken rage, may someday even kill someone! It wasn’t AHTN who is preventing this from happening, but people who stepped up to the plate. All these modern day Pharisees care about is their funding. To them, the homeless are just cattle, from whom they don’t expect any moral code.

Like AHTN, when I called out two non homeless guests for hogging food at the community meals, members of the suburban ganstas circled the wagons and defended the offenders.

When you don’t maintain laws of civility in society, you end up with a society like The Lord of The Flies.

http://www.shmoop.com/lord-of-the-flies/summary.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

Not My Fault!

“Mr. Speaker, Carlos’ life – and his death – cast a bright light on the fact that addiction is nothing short of a chronic disease,” said Congressman Brian Fitzpatrick on the floor of the house of representatives in the context of an executive order to fight drug abuse and the opioid crisis.

Carlos was one of 185 deaths by overdoses in Bucks County, PA in 2016.

http://levittownnow.com/2017/04/07/fitzpatrick-shares-story-local-opioid-overdose-applauds-presidents-executive-order/

As long as drug abuse is treated as a disease, we will not win the war on drug and opioid abuse.

Treating drug abuse as a disease absolves the user from responsibility. In the 12 Steps program, which historically has been successful in having people overcoming their chronic, debilitating problems, starts: “1. We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature.

For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. Romans 7:18″

“Calling drunkenness a ‘disease’ or a ‘sickness’ rather than a ‘sin'”, wrote pastor and counselor Jay E Adams, “may seem to them a gracious act, but it is just the opposite. You cannot be more gracious than God. To call drunkenness a ‘sickness’ is to take away hope; there is no pill that will cure such a ‘disease’. But if, as the Bible says, drunkenness is a sin, then there is real hope, because Christ Jesus came not only to free us from the penalty but also from the power of sin.” (Solving Marriage Problems, p14)

In his blog in Psychology Today, Lance Dodes MD argues that drug abuse is not a disease and addresses the implications of this stance: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-heart-addiction/201112/is-addiction-really-disease

On Dr. Adams’ website, the notion of drug abuse, and by extension, mental problems being a disease is addressed:

“Mental Illness

Posted on August 22, 2016 by Donn R Arms

Folks let’s get this straight. The mind is not a physical organ. It cannot have a disease, illness, or injury in anything other than a metaphorical sense such as a sick economy or a sick joke.

Typhoid fever — disease
Spring fever — not a disease
Scarlet fever — disease
Bieber fever — not a disease”

Problems can’t be solved unless you get to the root of the problem. At the community meals for the homeless and those in need, in Bucks County, a few people despoil the meals by taking an inordinate amount of items. One character, Birdman, has gone from table to table, while people are still eating and loots what was set out for others as well as tries to fill pitchers he brings from beverage containers that are for everyone.

On one occasion, when I shooed him away when he tried to loot food at my table, I told him he was annoying. “What’s the problem?,” he asked, clueless. “Nobody else has a problem” with what he was doing, he added. Immediately, someone chirped “I do!”  On another occasion Birdman asked me how he annoys me. I told him that I’ll treat that as a rhetorical question. For those of you in Doylestown, a rhetorical question if a question for which you don’t want an answer.

At another meal, a guy who was homeless but was then in county assisted housing said that Birdman’s behavior is a normal consequence of being homeless or in need. I disagree. Your status or situation should not determine your behavior. I don’t buy the Curly of The Three Stooges’ thesis “I’m a victim of soy cum stances!”

Whether your talking drug abuse or any other problems, to overcome them you must stop making excuses. One bad, sinful problem I’m working on is unforgiveness, harboring resentment against people who grossly wronged me. I wish I could just take a pill, wave a magic wand, or drink a Coke and I and the rest of the world will sing in perfect harmony. Life doesn’t work that way. It’s not a disease but a moral failing which I’ve been working on and have made progress, slowly but surely.

Blaming others is counterproductive.

Here’s a folk song about blaming others:

“I went to my psychiatrist to be psychoanalyzed

To find out why I killed the cat and blacked my husband’s eyes.

He laid me on a downy couch to see what he could find,

And here is what he dredged up from my subconscious mind:

When I was one, my mommie hid my dolly in a trunk,

And so it follows naturally that I am always drunk.

When I was two, I saw my father kiss the maid one day,

And that is why I suffer now from kleptomania.

At three, I had the feeling of ambivalence toward my brothers,

And so it follows naturally I poison all my lovers.

But I am happy; now I’ve learned the lesson this has taught;

That everything I do that’s wrong is someone else’s fault.”

More about being responsible: https://www.gospelway.com/religiousgroups/psychology.php

Overcoming Obstacles

Funding Woes Hurt Homeless reads a newspaper headline I referenced in recent blogs and argued that the cuts to Bucks County’s useless Mental Health Hustler programs is not what hurts the homeless.

Hobophobia, the irrational fear of the homeless is the main reason there is not sufficient housing for the homeless in Bucks County, PA. Because of attitude towards the homeless, not only will the county government not adequately provide homeless housing, but it interferes with private efforts to provide homeless housing.

Bucks County should follow the example of Pedro Opeka, who encouraged impoverished people in Madagascar to build good communities from  a dump, where once he taught them, they became educated and also built their own community. They didn’t build their city on rock and roll but by motivation and hard work.

A formerly homeless guy in Bucks County told me he spoke with a businessman who had planned to create housing for the homeless. When the establishment found out the project was for the homeless, it was nixed! I’ve heard from other sources that, although there is more property in Bucks County than homeless people, when caring people tried to make plans to use it for the homeless, they got shut down faster than The Little Old Lady from Pasadena shuts down anyone who races her.

Awhile back, when I asked Bucks County Commissioner Diane Marseglia to consider a plan to create homeless housing on county land, she poo-pooed the idea and said that it would jeopardize county assisted housing opportunities. There is a one to two year wait. My idea, like Priest Pedro’s, is to let the homeless build and maintain the community, as is the case with Dignity Village in Portland, Oregon.

https://dignityvillage.org/

In Bucks County, the consensus is that people, especially the homeless, are not able to do what the villagers did in Madagascar. And as I’ve argued, Bucks County just uses the homeless so it can keep them out of public view as much as possible and put them out to pasture and tap into public funds.

Even the local Salvation Army, the organization which historically has gone against the grain in order to help restore down and out people, goes along with the establishment in order to get along. People’s actions there show that they are hobophobic. The boss, Major (Casper) Milquetoast will not lay down the law. Likewise, for The (alleged) Advocates for The Homeless and Those in need (AHTN),  rules are no rules.

Two homeless people, whom I believe were drunk and I believe took the AHTN bus, went to a recent community meal. They were both loud, especially one of them. When a host on the serving line asked me how I was doing, I responded, “OK. I’m a caregiver and it’s nice to get out once in awhile.” One of them slurred “are you in a tent or a home?” I ignored him. Louder, he repeated the question. “What does it matter?,” I replied. He said that I was in a home and added that he doesn’t like it when someone with a home says he’s going to go out. That whine was totally irrational and uncalled for. Smacks of jealousy and PMS (poor me syndrome). He later got into a loud argument with another guest.

If the jealous tent dweller would get off the bottle, change his attitude and do something more constructive he may get out of his tent. I know of a few homeless people who did! They got a good attitude, didn’t engage in or listen to malicious gossip, went out of their way to find work, and moved on up!

Problem homeless people contribute to homophobia. Unfortunately, people judge all homeless people based on a few rotten apples.

Just as blacks overcame discrimination, oppression during the Jim Crow south, the homeless can overcome prejudice against the homeless and other obstacles.

Excuse making and blame shifting are major reasons the drug abuse epidemic is getting worse. When you see it for what it is, it’s as comical as an episode on the sit com Good Times, when JJ got busted for having a wild party. When confronted, he explained that some people broke into the family apartment “and forced us to party with them.”

“Success is determined not by whether or not you face obstacles, but by your reaction to them. And if you look at these obstacles as a containing fence, they become your excuse for failure. If you look at them as a hurdle, each one strengthens you for the next.”
Ben Carson, Gifted Hands: The Ben Carson Story

The doc has the right prescription for overcoming obstacles!