Dealing With Difficult People

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At tonight’s community meal for the homeless and needy in Bucks County, PA, Birdman was his usual savage self. He sat at the end of my table, repeatedly grabbing, often using the salt and pepper shakers, keeping it close to him.  I moved them towards the two people who were sitting across from me and kept an eye on them. Evidently, he had designs to make the shakers part of his plunder.  Image result for popinjay

As the hosts were cleaning up, I took the shakers to the kitchen, handed it to someone and explained that there’s a guy sitting at our table who likes to take things home with him and I wanted to make sure they got it back.

For the grand finale, Birdman went to our table with a host and the coffee pot. I had a half cup of coffee, which had gotten cold. I asked the host if I could top off my coffee. “Go ahead, help yourself”, Birdman snapped, adding “take all of it. Take it home with you!”

My name isn’t Birdman”, I quipped. He grumbled something inaudibly, in a hostile tone.  

My now filled cup of coffee was just the right temperature and it went well with my desert.

The coffee left in the pot barely fit in the container the bird brought with him.

Earlier this week, at the community meal at Redeemer Lutheran Church, Penndel, PA, the host announced rules for dining at the church, including not coming to the meal drunk and fighting/quarreling. About a year and a half ago, a guest came to the meal drunk and disorderly, verbally assaulted and physically threatened another guest (one of his swings clipped the guest) who was minding his own business, as well as also cursed out anyone who confronted him about his behavior. He threatened me just because he didn’t like the way I was looking at him (I was aghast at his behavior). It took three male hosts to pull him away from the victim.

The out-of-control guest was ushered to the opposite corner of the large dining hall. After a pow-wow with the Advocates for the Homeless and Those in Need (AHTN) members and hosts, the police were called. An AHTN member returned to the scene of the crime and demanded that the victim leave immediately. Soon the police came, who also told the victim he had to leave, as per the host’s request. The victim was banned from riding the AHTN bus and the meal, while the drunk and disorderly guest continued to ride the bus and attend the meal.

Because of this outrage, where the victim believed slander and other wrongs were committed, he filed a lawsuit against the church and members of AHTN. I believe that this event and the lawsuit is what prompted Redeemer to announce the rules. I also think that because some people did something to hold difficult people accountable for their behavior and continue to do so, the meals have been more peaceful, more enjoyable.

Tonight, and other nights, people have been able to at least put a speed bump in front of Birdman. Like Sally, he needs to slow his mustang down. Oh yea…  https://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=Mustang+Sally&qpvt=Mustang+Sally&FORM=VDRE

Society need rules, law and order. Without which, it ends up like the Lord of The Flies. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lord_of_the_Flies

Most of the guests at the community meal show restraint and respect others. It is a blessed time, where friends get together and talk about various things, admonish and encourage one another. At one meal, another guest admonished me to be gracious to Birdman. I’m trying. It takes wisdom to not cross that line to curb bad behavior which effects others and completely putting someone down. As the Bible says, be angry but do not sin.

It would be sad if a miscreant or two (or more) would ruin the community meals in Bucks County.

“As dead flies give perfume a bad smell, so a little folly outweighs wisdom and honor.”

-Ecclesiastes 10:1